
Motherhood, Sewing, Family
This post is in partnership with fairlife ultra-filtered milk and all opinions are my own.
One comment I get the most about my children is how well-behaved and sweet they are. Whether it be their teachers, their friends’ moms, or my friends, they ask me all the time how I raise them to be so well-behaved! My reply to them is always is that they were born this way! Heaven knew I’d be the worst mom in the world otherwise because I am not a patient enough person. So for the children’s sakes, I was given naturally well-behaved and sweet kids.
Of course my kids are not always well behaved and they bicker and argue here and there, and one constant thing they fight over is who gets to drink the last bit of our fairlife ultra-filtered milk. Every single bottle, every single time, guys! It’s more of a playful fight but then sometimes they get serious and say things like, “No, that’s not fair! You got to drink the last bit last time so it’s my turn!”
While they fight over the last cup of fairlife milk because it just tastes really good and they prefer the taste over any other milk, plain and simple, I prefer to give them fairlife milk because of all the nutritional value it offers. You can compare it to other milks for yourself here but while some brands of coconut milk and almond milk offers 0-1g of protein per 8 oz., fairlife offers 13 g. of protein. Compared to the regular 2% milk we used to drink, fairlife has 50% less sugar, 50% more protein and 30% more calcium. Compared to soy milk, fairlife has almost double the protein and 30% less calories per serving!
This is why I feel really good feeding my kids fairlife milk. It’s also lactose-free so my mom and my husband can drink it without having to go to the bathroom 30 mins. later. Too much info?
And how do I settle my children’s last bit of milk debate? I let my kids debate and handle it on their own and they usually come to a peaceful conclusion all on their own. They really are good kids and I am a very lucky mama to have them in my life. Heaven knew I’d be the worst mom in the world, because otherwise I am not a patient enough person. So for the children’s sake, I was given naturally well-behaved and sweet kids.
But no one is ever satisfied with that answer, which I wholeheartedly believe to be true. So they nudge and keep asking if there are specific things I do or ways I discipline them so I thought a blog post might be helpful on ways I raise my children. I don’t know if these will work for other parents but this is the way I raise mine and maybe you’ll find it helpful.
How I Raise My Kids to be Well-Behaved
I hope you found my list above helpful for you.
Let me know in the comments if you’ve ever tried fairlife ultra-filtered milk and if you have any other tips for me on raising well behaved kids! I am always open to suggestions on parenting because once we know better, we can do better.
#sharingmyheartwithyou A few months ago I had each of my family member make a dream board. I’ve heard many times of the importance of goal setting & writing them down, from every TED talk, book, the law of attraction & all that.
And I’ve had many things come true so I’m a firm believer in writing it down & making it known to the Universe!
So I had my family make their dream board which we shared with each other. One of mine was how I wished our dream house will turn out the way I envisioned & drew the house with double doors, even though we had already decided on a single door because Jay was adamantly against it.
Later that night after the kids went to bed, Jay told me, “If you want double doors, let’s have double doors.” My jaw dropped because it wasn’t an option before, he wouldn’t even consider it!
Then as I looked at my daughter’s & she wrote she wished to be a great singer, as good as Ariana Grande, I thought well, I better help her make it happen! So for a week I researched, read reviews, asked around & found an amazing voice teacher for her.
Then, a thought came over me. ‘This is why writing down your dreams & goals work. Because your guardian angels & ancestors in Heaven sees it & will guide you & help you to achieve it. Just like how Jay loves you so much & you love your girl so much, you’re willing to do everything in your power to give your loved ones what they wish for, so are your loved ones in Heaven. And while your resources like time, money or connections are limited, their resources are limitless. And while they can’t read your mind, if you write it down & put it on display, they’ll see it and they’ll do everything in their power to help you achieve it.”
I think there are many other reasons why writing things down highers the chance of it coming to fruition but I do believe this is part of the reason why. What are your thoughts?
I was driving in my neighborhood on my way to drop my child off & running a few mins. behind. One car pulled over to park on the side of the road while the 2nd car just came to a stop right in the middle of the road. There wasn’t any room for me to go around so I waited, thinking she’ll move soon enough. She had stopped where it was the most convenient to her, next to her friend who had just parked to the side.
After waiting & no apparent sign of her moving, I honked lightly. I waited some more & nothing. I honked again, this time a little bit louder, & still nothing.
Finally, the girl who parked on the side got out of her car to tap on the window & yelled, “Move!” She finally started pulling to the side & as I drove by, I felt annoyed.
The thought, ‘I don’t get how people can be so selfish & entitled?’ started to creep up on me when I stopped myself & said, “Maybe she’s deaf. Maybe she didn’t hear me at all.” Then my annoyance & irritation suddenly went away & it was immediately replaced with sympathy & understanding. I said a silent prayer that she’ll have a good day & went about my day.
When we hold any negativity in our heart towards someone, what good does it do? Does having that negative feeling benefit them or ourselves or improve the situation in any way?
So instead of being appalled & thinking, ‘Man! I just don’t understand people sometimes. They’re so selfish/rude/entitled/pathetic!’, give them the best excuse you can think of.
If a car cuts you off & then has the audacity to flip you off, instead of saying what is wrong with him/her? And getting irritated or angry, give them an excuse of why they might feel that way. Oh, they must have just gotten a call that their dad was in a car accident & is in the ICU. So he’s feeling angry at the world right now which is understandable. Then instead of anger, we feel sympathy & our heart is no longer filled with negative energy.
Because in the end, when we hate/resent someone, it’s like giving them the remote control to our happiness. Don’t give them that control.
Merry Christmas from our family to yours!🧡
Determined to make our family photos as least stressful as possible, I didn’t think or worry about it until 2 hours before the shoot, which I don’t recommend.😅 My daughter cried, I yelled, I got called Cruella De Vil, we found this spot moments before the shoot while driving by, and 30 mins. into the shoot was when I noticed Jay was wearing slippers. I asked if he forgot to bring his shoes & he said nope, he meant to wear them to the shoot.🤨
Life is a lot like a family photo shoot. They are full of stressful moments, chaos, yelling, impromptu planning, lots of the unknown, a lot of just winging it and hoping the result will turn out good.
But it’s in those moments we become perfected, more tolerant, forgiving and open-minded.
And what if, just what if, our journey is the very purpose of this life, instead of our final result or destination?
“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal.” -Earl Nightingale
This means that any person who is working towards their goal is a truly successful person. It’s not when they finally get there and achieve their goal. While you’re in the process of getting there, you are already successful.
So while Jay and I wing it many times in parenting our children and sometimes have no clue what we are doing, our biggest goal and desire is to love them with all our hearts and raise them righteously. And since that is our desire in life more than anything else, the result can’t turn out that bad either, like this family photo.
May you be filled with incredible love from others, immense love for others, but most importantly, I hope you can give the gift of the greatest self love you can give this Christmas time.