have you ever read the book men are from mars and women are from venus? well, it’s an interesting book with many stereotypes(but i guess you can’t talk about every single case so you do have to direct it to the general) and i know there are always exceptions, but there’s a lot of truth in it in some cases for me and my husband.
for example, it’s been awhile since i briefly skimmed it, but there’s one part that goes something like this.
wife after coming home from work: “ugh, i had a terrible day at work.”
husband: “why? what happened?”
wife: ” i can’t stand my boss. she is so bossy, condescending, blah blah blah….”
husband: “just quit your job then.”
wife: “……wait, what?”
husband: “if you hate your boss, then just quit your job!”
wife: “that’s not what i’m saying…”
wife gets even more frustrated than before and just leaves while the husband is confused and has no idea why she’s mad at him.
well, that’s me and my husband for ya. my husband and i just had this conversation today.
me: “i haven’t really enjoyed blogging for the past few weeks. i just feel like no one really reads my blog. in the beginning when i started blogging and only my friends and family read it, i had way more comments that i do now! and then i see other blogs who have around the same amount of readers as me or a lot less, and they get way more comments! i mean, not that i blog just to get comments, but i just feel like no one reads or cares for my blog! i put a lot of time and effort into my blog, especially when posting my sewing tutorials and i know other blogs who put a lot of time into theirs and offer their readers recipes/craft/sewing/fashion/photography tutorials and they don’t get much comments either, so it’s a little discouraging when i see blogs who post like two pictures and two sentences about going to go get ice-cream and they get like 100 comments of something like, “oh my gosh, i love ice-cream too!!!” and i’m thinking, really? seriously?”
husband: “then stop blogging then!”
me: “i can’t, i have sponsors…”
husband: “just get rid of them and just stop blogging!”
me: “uh…. jay, i’m just trying to vent, i’m just trying to say…. ugh, never mind.”
husband: “i’m just saying, no one cares about stupid blogs.”
………..
one thing i learned on my mission, when you had to be with your companion for 24/7 and always had to be in a sight and hearing distance, is that when two people truly love each other and they’re both genuinely good people, and you happen to get offended by another, you have to remember that the other person never intentionally tried to hurt you and it’s a big misunderstanding.
so even though my husband sounds like a jerk(at least in my ears haha), he is genuinely trying to help me with the best intention in his mind. but it’s hard to remember at the moment when i’m frustrated because i’m not looking for him to solve the problem, i just want someone to understand and validate my feelings. you ladies understand, right?
but oh husband, i’m so, so grateful that you definitely make it up plus much more in other areas. and i wouldn’t want to have these kind of conversations with anyone else but you. 🙂
