She Told Me I was a Bad Mom. That Person Was Me.

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This past week, I launched my shop and Jay was gone on a business trip for a week. It was the busiest week of my life and I was barely hanging on! For two days, the day before the shop opened and the day of, Aiden watched about 4 hours of t.v on each day. I put my business over him for those 2 days. And I felt such mom guilt and started getting down on myself and thinking how I was going to own a shop when I can’t balance life already. I began to self doubt myself and wondering how I was going to be a business owner when I’m terrible at business. I don’t know very much about business, I love giving stuff to other people for free(if you’ve been to my house, you’ve most likely left with a full belly and/or a gift like my favorite face lotion or baby clothes). I’ve already promised several of my friends free skirts, so much so that I had to tell Jay and my friends to not let me do that anymore! And I am already busy as it is with being a blogger and being a stay at home mom to 3 kids, I don’t know how it’ll pan out in the future.

But the biggest voice inside my head kept telling me, “You are not a good mother because you didn’t pack your girls homemade lunches at all this past week. You’re not a good mom because you yelled at them today and lost your cool. You’re not a good mom because you talked to them in a not so nice tone. You’re not a good mom because the kids went to bed later than their bedtime today and you didn’t make dinner today. You are not a good mom so how will you even run a business?”

Mom guilt is so real isn’t it? I feel guilt on a constant basis. No matter how hard I try to be the best mother that I can be, there’s always something I could do better at. The house could be a little more cleaner, I could feed them more healthier food, I could have been more patient and not have sighed so much(something I am working on). I was thinking of mom guilt the other day and why women tear each other down, especially mothers criticizing other mothers, and it made me realize, it’s because we all feel insecure as mothers. We constantly feel guilty about not being the perfect, ideal mother we had always dreamed and envisioned us of being, and since we constantly fall short, it’s our insecurity that makes us judge other mothers and their parenting skills or choices.

I believe a truly confident person doesn’t judge or look down on others or feel the need to be mean to others. But yet, even the good people have bad days and moments of insecurity and that is when we try to bring someone else down so we feel a bit higher. We might feel higher than the people we are putting down for a bit, but the truth is, we are actually putting ourselves below them. Any moment we gossip or are mean or do something negative, we are actually putting ourselves in a lower position. I am definitely guilty of it. I’m realizing that we are constantly changing for the better or for the worse, and every time I talk negatively about someone, I am becoming a worse person. And instead of spending time putting out negativity to the world and putting myself lower, I can use that time equally on building others up and doing positive things instead, thus becoming a better person than I was a moment before. And that also counts for self-negativity!

I think it’s important for us to acknowledge and compliment ourselves on what we did well instead of only focusing on what we didn’t do. And the below three pictures pretty much sum up what it’s like to be a mother to a two year old.

my boots | his boots

They are never still and they want to do the opposite of what you ask them to do! I just wanted a picture of our shoes lined next to each other, dang it!

I am so happy that I got my son these adorable Kamik Snobuster snow boots. I’d been looking online deciding which snow boots to buy for him, so this worked out perfectly! DSW Shoes has many selections of cold weather boots for the whole family, and now that my son has snow boots, our whole family is ready for winter! And snow! My favorite part about my son’s snow boots is that I can take out the inner fleece lining and have him wear it as rain boots. And I’ve been wanting a simple black ankle boots so I picked the Sterre Western Bootie by Steve Madden, which I can wear over pants, tights, or jeans. DSW Shoes just opened up a store a few miles from my house which I was very excited about. And right now, if you spend $75, you get $20 in DSW Shoes dollars.

Here are some of my favorite picks from DSW Shoes

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