One of the frequent questions I get from other women is how I balance my life out. “How do you find the time to sew, to run a small business, to be a stay-at-home mother and a wife, do modeling, and keep a blog? You seem to have it all figured out and so well balanced!” To that I tell them, what? I apologize if I ever portrayed myself that way because the truth is, I don’t! I’m not a successful business owner or a full-time blogger, I rarely do modeling(and I still have a hard time calling myself that, me a model? ha!) and I hardly sew. My little headband store is definitely on the back burner, no one buys them and I could care less. I can’t even remember the last time I checked out my own website! I am very picky about the auditions I choose to go to for modeling jobs since it’s such a time commitment to commute back and forth for an audition that you’re not guaranteed to get, I blog when the kids are at their friends’ house playing or at school, or when they’re in bed, and never when it’s just me and the girls and it’s not my highest priority either. I don’t do anything to promote my business or the blog, or make numerous contacts for sponsors.
I believe people make time for things that are the utmost importance to them, and I make time to be a wife and a mother foremost. Everything else can be put on a pause or on a back burner. For now anyway, while the kids are young. Once they’re all in school for most of the day, oh, I’m so excited to pursue my other dreams, education, and career on full force! I don’t believe my way is the best way or the right way, I’m doing what is best for me and I believe other mothers do what’s best for them too, no matter how different it might be from mine. So while I believe I can have it all eventually, I can’t have it all right now. There are so many things I’d like to do such as start my own clothing line, take guitar & singing lessons, go to graduate school, just to name a few and I believe it’ll happen, just not all at once and not all right at this minute. And I’m okay with that because right now my focus is on my little children.
How do you balance out your life? What are some dreams and goals in your life that is put on hold for now?
Mimi says
I run a small business as well and I thought I was the only one who forgets to check that email. I am finding that I should pursue those things that I am truly passionate about and take time out for. So I focus on my family and my blog for now. I try to keep the pressure off!
Positively Amy says
I really, really love this post. I have been realizing that I've been stressing out way too much about all of my jobs and not being focused enough on just being a wife and a mom. I really am motivated to work, but right now I need to keep reminding myself that I can put it on the back burner and then focus more on it when my son is older and in school during the day. Sounds like you have your priorities straight! : ) I know how to have them straight, I just need to be okay with it! : )
Betzy Carmona says
i couldn't even imagine doing what you do 🙂
T.C. Nilgün Komar says
you and you'r doughter are you wonderful
Sarah says
Haha, we are on the same page then! 🙂
Sarah says
I think a mother can focus on her job and being a mother at the same time, it's all about finding balance. Best luck to you and thanks for sharing your views!
Sarah says
Haha, I honestly don't do that much! I'm sure you do a lot more than me! 😉
Sarah says
You are so sweet, thank you!
Sarah says
I believe mothers can work and be a mother at the same time and be balanced! good luck with everything and hope it'll all be for the best!
SupaFlowaPowa says
I've seen a few episodes of Tia and Tamara and love 'em from days of Sister Sister! But I got really perturbed when Tia kept talking about being a working mom.. I dunno, as a mom that works part-time and has full mom responsibilities, it hit a nerve. She has a nanny! But I do love 'em – they had a summary episode the other day that recapped everything faster than watching all the episodes and I loved it. HAHAHA. guilty pleasure.