7 Lessons I’ve Learned as a Mother
1. Forget the Pinterest image of a mom nursing in a white, stain-free tank w/ perfect makeup & hair, looking fully rested & starring sweetly at her baby. It’s all a lie! That sweet, harmless looking angel will turn into a piranha the moment a nipple even remotely brushes near their mouth.
2. Love equals sacrifice. You cannot help but love who you serve. This is why a mother’s love is one of the strongest love there is. This is why the scriptures say love your enemies & do good unto them. It’s more for yourself than for your enemies! Because hate or resentment only hurts yourself & you’re giving them power to control your happiness.
3. Motherhood will turn my patient, optimistic self into the most impatient, paranoid, stressed-out self. This is a beautiful change because it means every choice I make & everything that happens to me now affects 4 more people. So not only do I see & feel this life through the eyes of my own, I see & feel this life through 4 more.
4. It’s okay to hate being a mother sometimes. No sane person will say at 5 am, “I just love not sleeping & hearing my baby wail all night & tasting their vomit.” It does not mean you hate your children or that you’re not a good mom. It means you’re normal & sane. So congrats!
5. In that very moment you get annoyed, frustrated, exhausted, angry, yell or completely lose it, you are being perfected. Your capacity is being stretched in that very moment. You’re now a better person than you were a moment ago. So instead of beating yourself up, pat yourself on the back.
6. Your highs will be higher & the lows will be lower. This is because your love will be deeper, hence the fear & the opposition, greater. As you are able to feel the highs much higher, you’ll feel it’s lows much lower. It’s not that the kids made you more angry, guilty or fearful, they have made you more loving, patient & humble. .
7. No matter how much I think I teach, shape & raise my children, they will always teach, shape & raise me way more than I ever would to them. No matter how much I think I sacrifice for them, I’ll always be indebted to them.
Happy Mother’s Day, my dear friends!