Today is my husband’s birthday. I woke up early and started making breakfast and then gently woke him up with kisses and cuddles, and started the day with his favorite homemade waffles, whipped cream & peaches.. I made him his second breakfast to eat at work(he eats a lot), of hash browns, eggs and bacon.
My husband is a special guy, he really is one in a million. Besides the fact that he can take care of the kids better than I can and would make a better stay at home parent than I am, what makes him a one in a million is that he’s so good at taking care of the kids and taking care of the house, that he puts me to shame(see the post here).
My friends have told me that when they’re gone for a night, or a few days or even a few hours and then come back home, their husbands would say to them, “Oh honey, I have so much more respect for stay at home moms, it is so hard! I can’t do anything or get anything done! They’re so demanding! I don’t get how you get anything done around the house staying at home with the kids!” Isn’t that what every mother wants to hear from their husbands? It’s like a dream! But my husband is different. When Jay sent me on a surprise trip to N.Y last year for 5 days by myself to see my friend and my brother, I came home thinking, ‘Oh, he’s going to appreciate me so much more, he had a glimpse of what I really do all day. He’s going to tell me he doesn’t know how I do it and how he has so much more respect for me.” Well, let’s just say that did not happen and quiet the contrary. I came home to a spotless clean house where the back of the fridge and the oven was wiped clean, the house was immaculate, the kids behaved and listened after only telling them once because Jay had made this beautiful chore chart that he printed, colored and laminated, on a big white board. He did yard work, he grocery shopped, the kids were so well taken care of and happy. He said to me, “See? Look at all the things I’ve got done while you were gone!” So while my girlfriends come home feeling more appreciated and respected by their husbands, my husband is more like, staying at home isn’t hard! Look at all the things I can get done around the house!
Fine! You stay home and be a stay at home dad then! 🙂
Another thing that I love/hate about him is that he makes the worst blogger’s husband. But also the best because he keeps it real and keeps me grounded. Here are the reasons why he makes the best and the worst blogger’s husband.
6. He hates being in pictures. If you’d like to know if a picture being taken was my idea or his, only ones that he initiated(which happens once in a blue moon) are the ones he’s smiling big. All the other ones he’s barely smiling or fake smiling. See examples below and see which one was his idea and which one was not.
5. He hates taking pictures for me. My Sunday Best posts? I have to bribe him. Why are my Sunday Best pictures only taken right by our front door? Because one time I asked him to cross the street and take a picture(it was literally just across the street on our neighbor’s yard), he whined and complained and said how it was so far. I have to take what I can get, so if he’s willing to take pictures for me after I bribe him, I don’t dare suggest we go elsewhere and stay 5 feet in proximity to our front door.
4. Besides Sunday Best pictures, he takes two pictures tops. I only get two no matter what. The first time I went to a blogger party and they had some husbands there, I was so shocked in disbelief when when my blogger friends asked their husband to take pictures for them. “Oh, of course hun!” was their reply. I starred in disbelief at these husbands and thought, ‘Whoa, Jay would never say that! He would grunt and say, “you only get two pictures!”, then I was more shocked when the husbands happily grabbed the camera and took about 8 pictures each in every angle, position, and height. Seriously, they took about 30 pictures total! First of all, they would lower their camera to their elbow length to get a flattering angle(Jay is 6’2″ and doesn’t lower the camera at all so I always look so short!), take about 8 pictures in that same position, then get on their knee level and take 8 more, then scoot to the side about a foot to take 8 more, then scoots to the right to take 8 more. The whole time they were taking pictures I was just in complete dismay. I get two pictures and that’s it!
3. When Jay is playing with the girls and it’s a really cute, sweet moment between him and the girls, I get up to go get my camera but he stops me and says, “No pictures.” If he’s doing something really cute for the girls like arranging a scavenger hunt one Saturday morning and the girls are super excited because he said there’s a golden treasure at the end of the scavenger hunt, and I am about to go get my camera, he says to me “No pictures. I didn’t do this for the blog.” The girls are obsessed with crystal hunting right now so he tells the girls that he is a crystal finder expert and excitedly orders crystal rocks on Amazon and then when it arrives in the mail suggests to the girls, “Let’s go crystal rock hunting!” and then discreetly hides the crystals so the girls could find them, and I want to take pictures of it, he says to me, “Just enjoy the moment Sarah. No pictures, or at least the pictures don’t go on the blog or anywhere.”. He keeps me grounded and helps me to live in the moment. And he doesn’t do cute things or stage things so that I could “brag” about how wonderful my husband is. Maybe I would’ve become this crazy, obsessive blogger who has to take pictures of every sweet, intimate moment and plaster it all over social media. Or stage things to put on the blog! Gosh, I promise you that I will never stage a life’s moment just for pictures. That is the day I will stop blogging.
2. He doesn’t ask about my blogger parties or events I attended. He has not yet once asked me, “How was the party?” because he doesn’t care. He could care less about what I did at the party, who I met, what swag bag I got.
And the #1 reason why he makes the best/worst blogger’s husband is:
So there you have it. I wouldn’t change him one bit, he really is perfect for me in every way and challenges me to the best person possible. Happiest birthday to you Jay, I am sorry for ruining your 30th and the 31st birthday but I will make it up to you for the rest of your birthdays.
Alyssa says
Happy Birthday Jay! And my husband doesn't read my blog either! I asked him to subscribe, he hasn't. I ask him if he saw my photos/looked at the post, he hasn't. I thought it was just me! But I love him so and he keeps me grounded as well. Got to love our husbands! 🙂
Mel says
Ha yeah my husband is exactly the same and we have squabbles about his reluctance to take or be in pics all the time as I want the memories for our family albums as much as for my blog! He doesn't r
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