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11th YEAR ANNIVERSARY

~ MARRIAGE

 

 

 

11 years, baby! I met Jay when I was 19, he was 22. According to him he was “smitten at first sight” and wanted to ask me out on a date but he got so nervous and scared and thought I’d never say yes to him. So he never did. But the thing is, I liked him too. There was this deep, instant connection with us I couldn’t deny. But I was the most awkward, least-smooth girl who had no game whatsoever and never gave him any hints I was interested (I had a way of letting guys I was interested in think I did not like them whatsoever. I have so many awkward stories😩). Then 3 years later when I came home from a LDS mission, he told me his biggest regret in life was never getting the courage to ask me out on a date 3 yrs. prior. And then asked me if he did ask me out back then, if I would’ve said yes. I said, “I would have said yes. But back then I said yes to every guy that asked me out.” Easy, sass!😂 So he asked how about now… If he asked me out, what would my answer be now. I hesitated whether I should tell him the truth or lie. I decided to be honest and said yes. And a year later we were married. It was the best yes I’ve ever said.

I absolutely love growing old with you @jaystory9. I’m so excited for us to become grandpa and grandma, retire and hit the movies & Sizzler’s together, and shrivel up and get wrinkly & saggy together. Happy anniversary, babe! I love you so much.

We’ve been married for 6 years!

~ Etc.

Even though we’ve postponed our 6th anniversary date to next week(the girls really want to go see Epic and they have a birthday party later tonight that they’re so excited about), tomorrow marks our 6th wedding anniversary!  I thought it’d be fun to look back on our wedding pictures, shall we?
I know it’s true love because:
-We were on a family walk and I was holding the dog’s leash which means whoever is walking the dog is in charge of picking up his poo in our rule, and right when we were walking past the nicest house in the neighborhood with the best yard, our dog pooped right in the middle of their front yard.  And it wasn’t just solid poop that’s easy to pick up either, it was green, watery diarrhea, which you can’t just “pick up”.  I looked at Jay and made a face like oh crap, I don’t wanna clean that up! and that’s all it took for him to walk back home to get a bucket of water and cleaning supplies to clean it for me.  Would I have done the same for him?  Heck no, I would’ve been like, “Sucka!  Good luck cleaning that!” and laughed while watching him clean it up and he very well knows that, but did it for me anyway.   
-He calls or texts me every few hours to see how I’m doing, just to hear my voice, to tell me he loves me and misses me and is thinking about me.
-He knows my every flaw, seen me at my ugliest, worst moments, have seen all my annoying, gross, or unflattering habits, watched me vomit, and other bodily functions, and yet he still loves me and tells me there’s not one thing he would change about my character, personality or traits.  The only thing he would change is if I was more clean(which I’m thinking is definitely a part of my character, personality or trait haha) but I’m just glad he thinks that because there are many things I would change about myself!  It’s a miracle he is still madly in love with me after all that.  It truly is, it boggles my mind.
-When he comes home from work and dinner is not made because I wasn’t feeling well, he doesn’t complain one bit but goes to the kitchen to make a gourmet dinner for our family such as baked salmon, rice, and vegetables.  He then washes all the dishes and cleans up the kitchen and does the whole bedtime ritual all by himself and bathes the girls, feeds them vitamins, gets them their milk cups, helps change into their pajamas, brushes their teeth, reads them books, says a family prayer, tells them a story, sings to them, gives them kisses, cuddles for a bit and tucks them in.  The only part I participate in is saying the family prayer.  He’s been doing it all on his own ever since my pregnancy, but even before I was pregnant, he would bathe them, and then we would both do the rest of the bedtime ritual together.  
-Before, when we got in a fight, I would stay mad at him and give him the silence for at least an hour, if not half the day, but now when we get in a fight, the length of time I stay mad at him is very very short because I realize it’s not worth it and I start missing him and being around him.  He is such a fun guy to be around, and if you’re not around him, you’re missing out!
-When we were dating, and I was hanging out at his house in the winter time, 10 minutes before I had to go home, he would go outside and start my car engine and turn on the heater so it’d be warm when I got in the car.  If there was snow outside, he carried me out to the car so I wouldn’t have to step in the snow at all or get my shoes wet.  One time I was at work and when I was done with my shift, I noticed I had brand new windshield wipers that he replaced because he noticed it wasn’t wiping the window good.  Even when we weren’t even dating(or even close to dating), he would make me a homemade lunch and drop it off for me at my work.  He was incredibly thoughtful and sweet and he continues to do sweet things like this for me.  He still turns on the car engine and the heater in the winter time before he leaves to work on days I have to drop the kids off at school.  When I’m leaning against the couch and watching t.v on the floor, he’ll grab cushions and align it behind my back to make sure my back is supported.  If I’m lying on my stomach and using the computer on the floor, he would put a cushion below my elbows so I don’t get carpet burn and to make sure I’m comfortable.
There are so many other things he does that lets me know he loves me, but do you see how I cannot be crazy in love with a guy like this?  It’s impossible!  I know I am married to one incredible guy.
Happy anniversary Jay.   I would marry you a million times over.

5 year anniversary date.

~ Etc.

We celebrated our 5 year anniversary by going to the temple a few days before our anniversary day.     We also had plans to go to Park City that weekend, just the two of us, to go zip lining and go out to eat, but the weather ended up being very cold and windy so it had to be cancelled.  I originally wanted just the two of us to go on a trip somewhere far and exotic but my parents being older and not too keen on watching them for a few days, that choice was not even an option for us.  At first I was a little whiny  and thought, man, if we didn’t have kids, we could have gone to anywhere we wanted!  It’s our 5 year anniversary, this is a big deal! When will we ever be able to go on a trip just us two, maybe in 15 years?  But then another thought quickly came to my mind which was, yes, you do give up a lot when you have kids, but you gain it back and so, so much more in many other ways.  I then reprimanded myself for thinking selfishly because the truth is, having two irresistible, smart, funny little girls is worth way more than going on numerous exciting trips with just me and my husband.  I’ll happily take our two girls over exciting trips just the two of us any day.  

5 year anniversary post.

~ Etc.

Get ready for some ridiculous amount of pictures of ourselves of the last 5 years!
We celebrated our 5 year anniversary this past memorial day weekend.  I wanted to do a little flashback of the past 5 years in a nutshell.
We got engaged
 got married
we gave birth to Adalie, one of the best days of our lives.
Jay won the ugly sweater contest at his work Christmas party and got a $1,000
went to Hawaii to spend Christmas with Jay’s family
we tried to adjust into this so called parenthood
it wasn’t always easy, but we had a good sense of humor which made it easier
(and that cute face too)
Jay always continued to make me laugh
went to Hawaii for Christmas and jumped off a cliff
took a road trip to California in the summer…
got pregnant during that trip(second pregnancy surprise for us)
finished renovating our towne home
went to Hawaii for Christmas before giving birth to our second child
we gave birth to Ariana, one of the best days of our lives.
got to take this happy baby home from the hospital 
to begin our lives as parents of two kids under 16 months
didn’t listen to my mom and went out a week after giving birth, which resulted in us getting caught shoving crabs in my purse, and getting mastitis and thrush(fun times!).
but we had our two scoops of Tyau and they filled our lives with happiness.
we got sealed as a family in the temple.  The best day of our lives!
went on a family trip with Jay’s whole family to Caifornia and hit all the amusement parks, 
such as Disney Land, The Hogle Zoo, and The Universal Studios
bought a house with a national forest in the backyard
spent another Christmas in Hawaii
and continued to make memories together…
and loving him even with the molestache
out of all the things we’ve accomplished in the past 5 years,
one thing we’re most proud of is raising a happy home together.
that’s filled with a lot of love, a lot of apologizing, a lot of forgiveness, a lot of prayers, a lot of laughter, a lot of tenderness, a lot of patience, a lot of service, a lot of selflessness, and a whole lot of fun.
We sure had some moments of disappointment, discouragement, and frustrations, but I can say the past 5 years has been the best 5 years of my life.  I found my journal the other day that I kept when I was in High School and one entry was titled, “The man of my dreams.”  I thought, ooh, this is going to be good!  And read the list to Jay and I was so surprised that he met EVERY SINGLE ONE on that list.  Every single one, no joke.  And in the end of that journal were some entries I added when I started dating Jay and it said, 
“So and so is dating so and so.  So and so just applied to graduate school.  So and so just got engaged!  I’m falling for Jay Tyau.”  
Another entry was “Romantic things Jay’s done” and some on the list were:
-Tonight Jay told me his password for everything has been my name…for a long time, even before we started dating.
-Today as we were sitting together in church, he showed me his bookmark which was my testimony I had written in a letter to him during my mission.  He printed my email and made a bookmark out of it and has been using it for a year or so!  He told me my faith and testimony in God has helped him a ton during the difficult times.
SAY WHAT???  How in the world did I think that was romantic?  More like creepy, holy crap!!!  They say love is blind, it really is true!?  
Haha, all jokes aside(not really, I still think it’s creepy), love may be somewhat blind, but I see clearly now why I married him, and I’m so glad I did!  I scored a jackpot!  I am so, so excited to grow old with you, Jay.  You just keep getting better and better.  
I LOVE YOU.