“I don’t feel important in this family. Ever since we got baby Aiden, you’re always taking care of him. You feed me, but that’s it, and then you go take care of baby Aiden.” my sweet daughter said to me crying a few weeks ago while I was nursing Aiden. She told me other things that she had been burying inside her little heart as I sat in my rocking chair and her leaning against me, and it broke my heart. I put Aiden down on the ground as I cuddled with her on the bed and we cried together. I cried not only because it broke my heart that she was sad because of me, but because I thought I was doing pretty good at this juggling thing with three kids. I made sure to spend time with my two girls everyday and talk to them and ask them questions, so they wouldn’t feel left out. But I realized I wasn’t doing that great of a job after all and I was disappointed in myself. I told her I was so sorry and that she was very, very important to me and how much I loved her. We cuddled for awhile as we talked together about what I can do to be a better mother to her and I made some goals and made promises to her.
One of the promises I made her was to take her out on a date every two weeks, just me and her. She got to plan the date so we went to the mall and got an umbrella for her and her sister since it rained all day today, and she picked out a leopard print umbrella like the true fashionista that she is, then we went to The Chocolate Factory and got a caramel apple and she insisted on posing for a picture with her umbrella open, then we went home and built a fort, and watched a part of a movie while eating our caramel apple inside our fort. She was so happy and I was too. How I love this girl. And how much I want to be a better mother to her so she’d always feel important.
Thank you to FabKids for my daughter’s cute outfit!
Oh dear that made me teary too. Finding the balance is so hard! What a wonderful momma you are to cuddle, listen, and follow through. P.S. that apple looks amazing!!
beautiful girl and printed sweater
Big tears are going down my cheeks right now. I had this conversation with my kids two nights ago. But I don't think they truly get how occupied I will be. I love your date night idea. We will have to write that down.
Big tears are going down my cheeks right now. I had this conversation with my kids two nights ago. But I don't think they truly get how occupied I will be. I love your date night idea. We will have to write that down.
That was an amazing story and you seem like a great mother! And your daughter's outfit is fantastic. I love all the colors.
she's adorable!!
Wow, just sweet 🙂
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Tabea
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I appreciate your comment, thank you. Balance is really hard! I am not sure if it's ever possible, but we do our best, right? 🙂
thank you!
Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one! I wish I had a talk with them and told them that I wouldn't be able to spend as much time and give them as much attention once the baby was here, since I have to split my time between three kids, instead of two. I guess I can still have that talk though, haha. Thanks for your comment!
you are so sweet. thank you.
Thanks Jeehye! 🙂
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Sarah, I don't think motherhood is ever easy, but it is absolutely a high calling and very, very sacred. But don't let the seriousness of the calling rob you of your sense of humor, for that's where you'll find your joy!
Keep up the good work, chingoo- a very wise friend of mine told me to "hold it lightly." I think that's sound advice….
From a fellow mom, with four spunky girls surrounding me!
such a sweet sweet girl…miss seeing your kids' faces… guess this is the world we live in now…
YOu are so sweet, I appreciate your comment so much!
Wish we lived closer too unni! 🙁
Oh, I'm sorry you had to go through it too, but so glad you can relate! Thanks for sharing your comment with me!