i apologize in advance if this blog is sounding more like a complaining/whining blog of motherhood. but i try to have my blog be realistic and not be the “look at me-i’m a perfect mother & a housewife” blog(not that there’s anything wrong with that, i still read and love those blogs), and since i post almost everyday, i’m not going to pretend that i’m all happy and good when i write at the end of the day, when i’m not all that happy and good, you know? i was never good at faking things and i sure am not going to try on my blog.
anyway… today has been tough too. being a single mother on this trip has made me realize more than ever just how much my husband helps with the kids. i’ve always known and greatly appreciated how hands on he is and what a family man he is but today i realized i’ve been very spoiled and just how much i depend on him on raising our two girls. so thank you hun, i couldn’t raise our girls without you. seriously. or i’d be one unhappy, angry mother. and single mothers, i don’t know how you do it, but you have all my respect and awe.
today was full of drama. with my youngest in her terrible two’s at it’s full throttle, she let me witness of her crying/screaming session every 30 mins. all day long, she left a huge puddle of pee in the hotel elevator on our way to my sister’s work party, my oldest made it to the bathroom at the beach and just when i was taking off her swimsuit, she let it all out, # 2 mind you, seeping all over my hands and my arms, herself, her swimsuit, there were so sinks or soap, just the toilet, i attempted to shop while my youngest kept grabbing an item from the store and running out of the store, thus causing the alarm to sound several times, then my oldest would run out after her, grab the item away from her, then get in a cat fight as my youngest grabbed and pulled her sister’s hair, bite her, scream at her, resulting in two little girls crying and screaming, my youngest grabbed a watch and threw it on the ground causing the glass to shatter, she spilled all her cereal on the ground at the store, then she wanted to be held which made it so much easier except for my poor arm that was about to die(which i must’ve said those words out loud because at the end of the day when i was still holding my youngest, my oldest said to me, “mommy, just put ana down, i don’t want your arm to die!”) and these are just glimpses of my day, there were plenty of more drama, i assure you.
the only upside i can think of is that tomorrow can’t possibly be any worse(knock on wood!) so it’ll be a smoother ride compared to today. i guess hard days like today makes the other days seem much better and easier?
and i wonder, how do some mothers want like 10 kids? like that family from 17+ counting? or is it like 39+ counting by now, it might just be. but what i do know for sure is that i am not sure why they would want that many on purpose. but much respect and awe to you as well.
Dessy says
Oh my gosh! Soooo glad I am not the only one that wonders why you would want alot of kids! (My sister-in-law has vowed to keep having children until her uterus falls out. Seriously, she said that!)
So sorry that you had a rough day! I can relate and I only have one! But it's a boy… and "oh boy!"
Daniel & Sarah says
my husband came from a family of 13 ( 10 boys and 3 girls) and his mother is a saint i dont know how she did it. but i love your blog even the bad days because everyone has those days. your blog is real life.
Paige (Final Clothes-Out) says
I don't know why people want a lot of kids, either. In fact, the thought of having ONE freaks me out.
Anyway, hopefully the kiddos will be better today. Everyone has a bad day once in a while. π
Andrea says
Everyone has these days and I'm happy to read a blog that proudly announces it, rather that brag about how perfect she is π And btw, the lady with 200+ kids keeps having them because she has a whole troop of other kids to raise them. The only work she does is via her uterus! OK, not all true, but she has admitted she couldn't do it without the help of her other kids. Let your kids have fun, why make them raise other children when they are children themselves!??
Jackie says
you are super mom. my mom raised four girls as a single mom. girls are DRAMA. we pulled hair, scratched, and screamed plenty for her. and now we love each other. you're amazing.
Leah says
Honestly, all that sounds awful, and even one of those things in a day would be enough to ruin it! It sounds like you all need a day of calm. Running around a lot (and probably getting not as much sleep on vacation) is hard on everyone, but especially little kids. Sometimes we expect too much of them…and they respond by letting us know how done they are! Hope you guys get some downtime so everyone can just settle and re-group.
steph nelsen says
someday you'll be laughing at days like that! once when marrin was two she climbed in the cage that keeps the beach balls contained at target and refused to come out until i bought her a ball. i thought i was going to have to call the manager, but i finally convinced her to come out.
Line says
sorry you had a rough day. we all experience days like this as moms and yes, i couldn't do it as a single mother!
i think that is SO cute that your older one told you to "put ana down" because she was so concerned for your arm. π reminds me of something MY oldest would say. someone told me that when you have more kids, the older ones mature faster and i have definitely noticed that to be true! your older one seems like a really good little helper. π
Sarah says
thank you for your sweet comments/stories everyone! I always enjoy reading your stories. π
xo
Adriana says
I don't have kids , but I helped raise my sister because we lost our parents when we both were really young, I don't want to come off as being condescendant, but may I ask, what kind of discipline or punishment do you apply with your kids? because in my experience they can sense your "weakness" and take full advantage of it, for example, my sister used to play the am an orphan card, let me get away with murder. But guess what? I was an orphan myself with the responsability to raise her to be the best human being possible, so even if it pained me to punish her, I knew it was for the best, now she thanks me for it and I could not be more proud of her! Sorry for venting, but for example I was at a wedding this weekend and a 4 yo boy was misbehaving so bad! and his mom said I can't scold him because he cries at the top of his lungs! He sure was running the show.
Sarah says
@adriana, not condescending at all! and oh man, that 4 yr. old boy! and I put them on time out when they hit someone, said a bad word, or don't listen to what i say like helping me pick up the cereal they just spilled. then i have a talk with them about why what they did was wrong. but i'll be the first do admit, I would love to have the lady come to my house from the nanny show and teach me how to discipline more correctly, since i know i don't know everything and i'm a new mother! i will take any advice from you since you seem like an amazing person to be raising up your sister when you both lost your parents. you're incredible!
xo
Adriana says
Thanks for your kind words, I am totally addicted to that show! I live in Europe and watch the English, italian and German versions of it! It's one of my guilty pleasures. it's an illness and I should be looking for a rehab program for this rare disease lol Btw I love your blog! you are incredibly creative and your girls are adorable
Pearl says
Sorry you had such a bad day Sarah and I wasn't much of a help. But i do take off my hat to all the single mothers out there! They are super women!!