I’ve been feeling so overwhelmed and stressed the past 2 days about having a second baby. Adalie has been even more clingy and needy than she already is which I never thought possible. I can’t even go to the bathroom without her crying and clinging onto my legs trying to get on my lap. So I think to myself, “Adi needs my attention equal to like 4 babies, how in the world am I going to have another baby? I don’t get any time for myself now, how will it be with two? How will I even get out of the house without Jay when even just now it’s hard enough?”
Every single mother and I mean it when I say every single mother I’ve talked to who’s had a second kid when their first one was just one has told me how difficult and hard it was the first few years. One told me she wanted to run away. My friend told me her mom told her she wanted a divorce from her kids but not her husband. One other friend told me her mom just dropped her off at her grandma’s everyday while her mom took care of her little brother because she couldn’t do it. I wish my mom would be here but she won’t. I will only have my brother Joseph here, even Jay’s 2 siblings who are here will move by the time my baby’s born. So instead of dwelling on my fear of the unknown and almost hyperventilating at the thought of having two kids under two, let me think on the positive side and make a list of why having two girls under two will be great.
-We don’t need to buy another car seat or stroller which is pink and very girly, not to mention clothes. blankets, bedding and so much more which will save so much money.
-I’ll pop out two kids this fast and then for a long long time not worry and enjoy my non-pregnant body.
-Adalie will LOVE having a little sister so close to her age. Every two sisters I’ve talked to that’s one year apart has LOVED having each other and are very close. This one makes me feel so much better…this is the best reason out of all.
-When they’re older, they’ll share clothes which will save SOOOO much money! We all know how expensive girls are and how they love to shop. π
-Having one is so fun so having two will double the fun!
-Despite it being so hard and challenging, it’ll make me that much of a better person and help me become more Christ-like in every way.
-My heart has been stretched so much to encompass the love I have for Adalie, my heart will be even bigger to fill the love I have for my second child.
-They’re so close in age, we don’t need to wait until the other one is old enough to go on trips like Disney Land for both of them to enjoy.
-I can do fun activities with my two girls like cooking night, craft night, etc. and not worry about entertaining two kids separately if I had a boy.
-They will always rely on each other and have a best friend. Maybe, just maybe Adalie will be clingy and needy to her sister instead of me! haha I doubt it but I can hope…
-If my second daughter is clingy and needy like Adalie (oh boy…) then they can cling to each other. π
-I can’t imagine my life without Adalie, and I know once the baby is out and I hold her in my arms, I’ll be so in love and won’t be able to imagine my life without her.
-I’ll keep watching John n Kate plus 8. That always makes me feel so much better.
The End.
Jordan and Amanda says
You are going to be the best mommy of two under two! AND manage to look fabulous every single day. AND manage to cook amazing meals and take your friend shopping.
And if not? Well then you’ll just be ordinary like the rest of us mommies π
You can drop Adalie off at our house any time. Malakai and Adalie can push chairs around for an hour or two.
Amy says
Ok so my sister had two boys really really close together, and she too had all these feelings, because her first little boy was so hard, and such a momma’s boy, but then her second one came along, and her oldest totally became mamma’s helper and was totally helpful and has embraced the older brother roll. My sister has enjoyed this experience so much her youngest is only 9 months and she is ready to start trying for a third. So not everyone has a hard time. I think Adi will love having a little sister. I hope that helped. If you do end up needing any help at all with your little ones give me a call and I would love to come help.
Kory says
You can drop your kids off at our place anytime. Adi and I are becoming the best of homies. And in case you didn’t see my comment on an older post, Pad Thai is my favorite food.
Steph says
So not that I know from experience, but all of my friends who have more than one child say it gets easier because instead of following you around and wanting to do everything that you do, the younger sibling follows their brother or sister and wants to do everything they do so you aren’t as busy entertaining them.
I’m sure it will be hard when they are both so little, but I bet it will get better quickly. Good luck! When you and Jay as parents, I’m sure that it will go well, but I can understand being nervous about it.
Michael says
I am so sorry you are stressing! I wish I was there and I would help you as much as I can! You will totally make it through this because you are one of those super women. Also, your husband is already awesome and just like you will naturally evolve he will too. There will definitely be days where it is as bad as you imagined but I promise most days will be way better. You are going to be so awesome and Adi will grow up fast and learn to help. You can do it!!!! One last little thing, I always tell Josie that there is no reason to stress about it now because what can you do about it now? Stress will never help you, it will only hurt you and make you feel worse. Let it go! Make Jay buy you a massage or a pedicure. Ok, I’m off my soap box now. Sorry :b
Michael says
Dangit! That was Kat not Michael!
Megan says
There are so many days when I feel like I have accomplished nothing with my three wee ones but then I have to remind myself that I’m doing EXACTLY what I want to be doing. This time will pass by sooo quickly and there will be years ahead of us for “fluff”. You are making the world a better place by bringing these sweet souls in the world and raising them so well.
Kayla R. says
YOU ARE GOING TO BE AMAZING!!