Oh hello, midnight rambling again over here. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my life(what’s new, right?) and something’s just gotta give. I am barely managing my sanity and keeping my kids safe and healthy and it’s very overwhelming. Being a mother is my most important job and my biggest passion but my other ambitions and passions overtake that role sometimes and I’m not as attentive to my kids as I want to. Ideally in my perfect world, I would volunteer at both of my kid’s classes weekly, have all the energy to run and play with them and not fall asleep every time I put my 18 month old son down for a nap, have all the free time to sew and start my clothing line and start making samples and manufacture it, have a sewing/fashion/design blog and make epic sewing DIY tutorial videos on Youtube, there would be more than 24 hours in a day or I would only need 4 hours of sleep so I can pursue all my ambitions, go back to school and major in fashion design, take singing lessons, take acting lessons and start taking my modeling career more seriously, I wouldn’t completely forget that one time I signed up to help the class party on Thanksgiving and miss it, laundry would always be up to date, my kids will stop spilling or making messes, I wouldn’t get exhausted from chasing a 18 month old at Target and so forgo grocery shopping even when we ran out of milk, ALL OF THIS ALL AT ONCE. I want it all, right now.
Been thinking a lot lately about blogging
BUT I know that is impossible. I can’t have it all, all at once. I believe I can have it all one by one over time, but not all at once right now. It kind of sucks that I can’t have it all but that is okay! This is how life is, we just can’t have everything we possibly want in our lifetime all at once. I’m not going to look back on my life on my death bed and wish I had blogged more, or that I earned more money, I will look back and ask myself if I’ve been a good mother. And a good wife. And a good, honest, kind, giving human being. If I was Christ-like. I will regret if I never started my own clothing line. I will regret if I didn’t spend as much time as I could with my kids. I will regret if I didn’t enjoy even the difficult times while my kids were little.
So I’ve decided that something’s gotta give and that is to blog less. To possibly make the blog more niche and blog about only certain topics such as things that only have to do with design- fashion design, sewing, interior design & party decor. Maybe I’ll narrow it to even less to just sewing eventually. I guess I’ll figure it out as I go. I am not certain what will go on and what will not go on the blog, this is so hard for me! I blog from my heart and blog about whatever I want at that moment but it probably covers way too many things and doesn’t have a theme or a focus. I will still post once in awhile things that are not perfect but beautiful nonetheless about my personal life like motherhood, marriage, life lessons I’ve learned(I personally love writing about my life lessons even though people don’t really care, but I care!), but they will be few like once or twice a month maybe. I am a little nervous about this change and honestly, I’m not sure if I can adhere to it 100% because I’m a very open and honest person and I’m not good at being calculated or strategic so it’ll be hard to hold back on posts on blog or Instagram. But on my Instagram account, I’ve slowly transitioned to mainly sewing and fashion and vacations, and hardly about my kids, all while I feel like I’m very much me, and open and real. I have to still post about the honest side of me because without it, I’d feel like the blog will be too superficial, without much depth or meaning. So I will still complain and whine about how hard being a mother is and things I find challenging, don’t you worry. π The reason why I’m hesitant to make this change is because I am interested in so many things, I would love to write about my skin care tips, sewing tips, my travels, being a mother, funny moments of my life, sweet moments of my life, my modeling career, food recipes, etc. but people probably don’t care about them? I want to blog about what I want but at the same time grow a successful blog that’s filled with topics people are interested in reading.
So I also wanted to get your input and ask you what topics are your favorites to read on my blog? What are your least favorites, In other words, why do you read my blog? For my sewing? For my honest motherhood posts? What do you not care for that I write about? My bento lunch box posts? Something else? If you still read my blog anyway, I feel like blogging is dying and so is my blog. But I guess if my main reason for blogging was to gain followers and make money, I would have stopped a long time ago. I blog because I feel like I have a voice and I love sharing bits and pieces of my vulnerability to others. So I would so appreciate it if you could help me narrow down the topics I’ll discuss on the blog!
Erika says
I feel the same way…I moved froom Romania to UK for a better future for my children and better oportunities for us…we have been here 5 years now and we still don't have our own place we are still renting…I want so much for my family's future and I wanted now…dreaming of better days…and missing the time that you are blessed now. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing your heart!
Hanna says
I don't quite remember how I found your blog, but I've stopped by every now and then to read your sewing and personal posts. I'm not a Mom yet, so the kids stuff is not for me, yet. Although, I'll look at cute kids anytime :).
I'm also a blogger, and I also sometimes feel like I can't do it all, or that my readers are not interested in what I post, but the what I've realized is that they are interested when I am. When I'm really passionate about a project and love it, or when I really pour my heart out, when I'm truly all in and enthusiastic about my writing, they do care. I think that if you yourself don't resonate with your writing, it's not going to resonate with others. You should write about what you are passionate about. That's what a blog was created for in the first place π
I wish you a lot of success and happiness in whatever you decide to do!
Hanna
TheYellowRose says
I came for your sewing tutorials, and stayed for everything! You have great talent, wonderful taste, and a beautiful family. I love that you speak honestly about everything from motherhood to DIY clothing (honestly, I felt so much better about buying/altering pieces from the store after you said it…it's much more economical!) I'll continue to read anything you decide to write about!
Anonymous says
I also came for your sewing skills and would like it to be more of a sewing blog instead of one about your very beautiful family.
Julie
Christy says
I love the full array of topics. I don't even sew, so I enjoy the other posts. It's nice to read about motherhood since I have just taken on the roll myself. I love your fashion posts, family adventures, and just whatever, really!
Ida says
I enjoy your sewing posts and I also enjoy hearing about your life. I am in a similar stage in life and reading your blog feels like conversing with a friend. Good luck with your choice- you have so much to offer, whatever you choose to do!
Kailee says
Interestingly enough, I found your blog and followed because of your sewing posts but I really appreciated it when you started being more vulnerable and open on your blog and that's why I stay. That's my favorite part about any blog because I get really tired of all the fake–we see it every day! Real is always appreciated. Of course, I think there's also a way to just write about a niche and still be very real. For instance, Dana from MADE usually only writes about sewing, but her blog feels very authentic to me so I love it! Whatever you do though, do it for yourself and not for your readers or you'll just feel obligated and/or unhappy about blogging and that's never fun. Haha sorry for the long comment, but I do love your blog! Anything you decide will be great π
Anonymous says
I love your blog just the way it is that's why I stayed following you! Don't change it.
Jennifer says
I found you because of all your DIY's and stayed for them and your honest mommy moments. I love how real and approachable you are (lots of other bloggers get soo big with all the endorsements and such). I will be honest that I don't really care for all the vacation pics and family stuff (though I do love to hear what you do). Maybe you could narrow things down to list of favorites things to do or tips to hosting a get together?
Either way, I love your blog and hope you can find a nice balance to everything π
Holy Craft says
I hear you! I have been reading along with you forever and really think that you are one of my favorite bloggers. Mainly because you are true to yourself. You show what you love and there isn't a lot of extra ads or sponsored posts (Though as a blogger I totally know you need that!), and it seems like we are sitting down for coffee. I totally understand that some things have to give. Stay true to you and you will make the transition no problem. Do what you want to do.
Nicole says
I echo what others say – I originally found you through sewing tutorials, but have stayed because I like how honest you are in all of your posts. I think no matter what route you decide to go with blogging, many of us will still stick around!
Naderiey M says
I came for all your posts. Do whatever you deem fit with your blog. I read your blog via bloglovin so i wil always see any updates whether it be once a month or once a year. Bon voyage to a renewed blog.style.
Naderiey M says
I came for all your posts. Do whatever you deem fit with your blog. I read your blog via bloglovin so i wil always see any updates whether it be once a month or once a year. Bon voyage to a renewed blog.style.
Becky Pelletier says
Love your sewing and diys but I also love your "real" approach to it all.
Melissa Sayoc says
I found your blog thru your pleated dress DIY – now, been following your posts – love ALL of it. YOU ARE SO TRUE. No pretentions – I can somehow relate as a mother and with all your interest – I understand your blogging for less – I was so scared reading this post – coz I thought you will be closing down this blog! Said – no! no! no!!!! Yes! She not closing it down!! Will continue following you, now matter how less you post and thank you for being an inspiration.
Jackie says
I will forever follow you…whether you blog daily, weekly, monthly. You do what you have to (because you're a great mom/wife).
Anonymous says
LOVE your blog! I found you through the pleated skirt/dress tutorial post, but kept reading because I love your sense of fashion, DIYs and stories about your kids/family life…love how you "keep it real". I could live without the Sunday Best posts, so if there is one thing you want to cut out, there is a suggestion π But I really enjoy reading all the other content! The valentines post gave me some cute ideas too!
Anonymous says
I like reading your sewing tutorials, fashion posts, and your random thoughts of the day, because I know they're authentic and helps me connect with you. I don't care much for the "mom" posts and I think you should include your dog more often.
Anonymous says
i love the variety in your blog, but i value your honesty the most. there are a million sewing/fashion blogs out there, but yours is unique. don't change, girl! just do what you can–and get yourself a part time babysitter! π