I was just telling my husband last night how discouraging it is that from the moment I wake up until he gets home from work, I am up on my feet and constantly moving, constantly busy and doing things for our children and yet when he comes home, the house is often times messy and I don’t have dinner ready on the table, and it doesn’t look like I did much that day. That all the work I do can’t be measured or proven, there’s no charts or certificates to measure my accomplishments. Before I had my 3rd child, the house was almost always clean and a hot dinner was ready on the table when he walked in the door. Now with 3 children, especially with a very clingy infant, that just doesn’t happen anymore! I know I should just accept it but I am having a hard time. I feel guilty that the house isn’t spotless clean. I feel guilty that the girls don’t get as much attention and time or one on one time. I feel guilty that there’s always laundry to be washed, or laundry in the washer that I forgot to transfer to the dryer, or clean clothes that needs to be folded and put away. I know I should relax and just accept the fact that I can’t do it all anymore with 3 kids, but I still try and feel guilty for failing every time because it really is impossible.
So I told him that even though the house is a mess and the dinner isn’t made a lot of the times when he gets home, I promise I was busy! I promise I was up and about doing productive things all day! But he doesn’t see all the things I do, and comes home to a messy home and I wonder if he thinks, “What did she do all day?” Then today my husband mentioned this video and told me it reminded him of me. That even though I might get discouraged because no one truly sees all the things I do in the house, he knows I do a ton of work and he appreciates everything I do. That he is so grateful to have a mother like me for his children. It feels so good to have recognition as a mother because we don’t get much from the world. I love my sweet husband and I love this video for making mothers feel pretty awesome! And if you are a dad, this applies to you too! My husband is just as dedicated and involved in the parenting, I just happen to stay at home with them while he goes to work. But that’s not to say he doesn’t work very hard at work and at home. So I wanted to share it with you and in case you are feeling guilty or not good enough as a parent, you are truly amazing. Working parents and stay-at-home parents, we are the same. We are all parents doing the best we can in trying to raise good citizens. I promise you that God recognizes every thing you do for your family. Every deed we do for our home will not go unrecognized in Heaven.