We celebrated our 5 year anniversary by going to the temple a few days before our anniversary day. We also had plans to go to Park City that weekend, just the two of us, to go zip lining and go out to eat, but the weather ended up being very cold and windy so it had to be cancelled. I originally wanted just the two of us to go on a trip somewhere far and exotic but my parents being older and not too keen on watching them for a few days, that choice was not even an option for us. At first I was a little whiny and thought, man, if we didn’t have kids, we could have gone to anywhere we wanted! It’s our 5 year anniversary, this is a big deal! When will we ever be able to go on a trip just us two, maybe in 15 years? But then another thought quickly came to my mind which was, yes, you do give up a lot when you have kids, but you gain it back and so, so much more in many other ways. I then reprimanded myself for thinking selfishly because the truth is, having two irresistible, smart, funny little girls is worth way more than going on numerous exciting trips with just me and my husband. I’ll happily take our two girls over exciting trips just the two of us any day.
mekei says
this is the poem that summed that up for me.
βYou are the trip I did not take, you are the pearls I could not buy,
you are my blue Italian lake, you are my piece of foreign sky.
You are my Honolulu moon, you are the book I did not write,
you are my heart's unuttered tune, you are a candle in my night.
You are the flower beneath the snow, in my dark sky a bit of blue,
answering disappointment's blow with "I am happy! I have you!β
β Anne Campbell
i like my kids way better than trips and trips with my kids way better than that.
and i guess you know you are a Mormon when you spend your big night out doing religious work for dead people. and people call us peculiar???
Joanna Lai says
Congratulations on 5 years Sarah and Jay!! God bless π
kimmie says
Congrats on 5 years! Sometimes I get selfish and think the same thoughts- some things would be so much easier without the kids… It's true that parenting is a big sacrifice (especially of freedom!) but it's SO worth it! π and you can always go on trips in a few years when the girls are older!
Sarah says
That is a beautiful poem, thanks for sharing! And yeah, why do people think mormons are so weird? π
Sarah says
Thank you Joanna, you are so sweet!
Sarah says
Yes, freedom is one thing you have to let go when you have kids. But it is worth it. Definitely. π Thanks for your comment!