I was SOOOOO bored last Thursday with nothing to do. Then I realized I want and need some mommy friends bad. Adalie’s at that age where if she has a friend over, they do their own thing and leave me alone for at least 50% of the time. That’s 50% more time for me to spend towards Ana or chatting up with my friend! None of my best friends are mommies yet! I’m tired of making friends with other mommies just because they’re a mommy like me. We become friends with conversations that always start with, “How old is your son/daughter?” And when we get together all we talk about is, “Where do you buy your diapers? What cream do you use for their rash? How many naps does your child take?” blah blah blah boring boring boring. I want a friend who I can talk to about mommy stuff as well as reminesce about our past years, share funny, crazy stories to each other, someone I would’ve become friends with even if I wasn’t a mother because I think she’s way cool, instead of being friends because they have kids around the same age as my kids.
So here’s my genius idea of encouraging all my married friends to get pregnant.
Here are 15 reasons why you should have a kid while you’re young. Like NOW! ;D
-Researchers funded by the National Institutes of Health have found that older mothers with normal, full-term pregnancies β particularly first-time older mothers β were more likely to undergo Caesarean delivery than were younger women with similarly low-risk pregnancies.
-You get less stretch marks,(more buoyancy your skin is the younger you are).
-Women having kids in their early 20’s tend to gain less weight during their pregnancy(usually less than the 25-35 lbs.) and lose the pregnancy weight faster. (I know this is gonna be a big-seller! π
-The younger you are, the smoother your pregnancy will be. “Because your eggs are young and more likely to be healthy, it’s generally easy to conceive now.” says Jennifer R. Niebyl, MD, professor and head of the department of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinic, in Iowa City.
-High-quality eggs also translate into a lower risk of birth defects; at 25, the likelihood of having a baby with Down syndrome is about 1 in 1,250. The chances that you’ll miscarry are also minimal, since carrying a fetus with Down syndrome or another chromosomal disorder is often the reason women lose a pregnancy, notes Dr. Niebyl.
-Steven Goldstein, MD, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at New York University Medical Center, adds that women Lyons’s age are also more likely to have a smoother time recovering from birth. “The older you are, the harder it is to bounce back,” he says.
-Age may also affect your delivery experience. According to a recent March of Dimes study, 80 percent of women in their 20s give birth vaginally, compared with 40 percent of women in their 30s and 43 percent in their 40s. “Vaginal deliveries are more common in younger women because their bodies have more muscle tone in the uterus and abs. This makes pushing easier,” says Dr. Schwarz.
-You have a lower risk of gestational diabetes, and hypertension.
-Delievery and recovery is easier and faster.
-you may be increasing your protection against future problems such as breast and ovarian cancers.
-In your 20’s, your risk of infertility, miscarriage, and health problems are the lowest they’ll ever be.
-Have more energy to play with your kids, be a part of their life longer, not too old when you become a grandparent so you can do fun activities with your grandchildren.
-Less generation gap with your children so you can relate to them more.
-When your kids graduate from HS and move on to College, you and your husband are still young to do whatever you want.
-When your kids are in school-age, you are still young to compete in the career world.
-Lower risk for birth defects. The older you are, the higher the chances are of your child being born with Downs Syndrome and other chromosomal abnormalities.
See, don’t you wanna go make a baby now? If you’re married now, you know what to do to make it happen. If you’re not married yet, go grab the first guy you see, elope in Vegas, then pop one out! If that’s not your thing(and I don’t see why not) and you like me and my kids, come on over, I would love to listen to your single-life, dating stories! And if you’re a mommy already and you think I’m sorta cool and you think I’ll like you too, let’s be friends!!! I sound desperate but it’s only because I AM!!! hahaha oh so sad…….
Amy says
sarah, I am a bit offended you don't ever call me to play, I think your cool, and I am a mommy…That's all
Bobby and Jasmine says
Haha Sarah those are great reasons =) You really did some research! Give us a couple more years. =)
kim says
sarah i know how you feel! i feel the exact same way haha… my only friends up here are the ones in our ward with babies. other than mom's group we don't really hang out. so kaden and i just chill at home and try to hang out with my sister once a week since our kids are a week apart. and in my situation all my friends are mostly still single and dont like hangin out with married people so i need friends too!
Jordan and Amanda says
Um, I believe I am a mother in my twenties, and I put on 35 pounds with my first pregnancy….maybe i just have the body of someone over forty. hahaha!
Ashley says
When is our play date I'm so in!!
Ginny says
very convincing sarah hahaha just wait couple more years please π love you
Kayla R. says
it is so fun when you find a group to have play dates near by!!! call me anytime Lily loves friends:)
Sarah says
amy, ash, kayla,let's PLAY!!! and kim, are you in UT? and amanda, shesh you lost all your weight after Malakai so don't even complain. π
The Guirola-Uyema's says
ditto to this post! i know what you mean. π
kim says
yeah we live up in slc just off 4500 s. kinda far away from everyone π but i dont mind coming down to play. kaden and i get very bored at home!
Dayna says
This is hysterical! I advocate young motherhood, too. Our oldest (18) was born when I was 19, and our fifth child was born a couple of months before my 27th birthday! I had little trouble losing my pregnancy weight (although I was unable to avoid stretch marks). Also, now that our friends who waited are older and less energetic to follow their babies and toddlers around, we have live-in babysitters (although ours are all old enough to stay at home at least for a small amount of time without us), and my husband and I have had a blast making up for the baby/toddler years of limited alone time!
If we were friends, we could hang out while my sweet, wonderful teenagers entertain your girls. They all love babies and children!
Our children are our best friends because, as you said, the generation gap is narrower. We have very high standards for them, but they respect us, and we do a lot of really fun things together. You and Jay have a good thing going on. I love your exuberance!